If you’re worried AI is coming for your therapy job, you might not be a good therapist. I said what I said.

Because therapy isn’t just about worksheets and coping skills, it’s about connection. Real, gritty, human connection. And if you’re a client who’s ever felt more seen by a chatbot than your actual therapist? That’s not your fault. That’s a failure of the system.

This blog calls out the scripted therapists playing it safe, the illusion of healing AI can’t deliver, and why therapy will always be a soul-to-soul thing. I also share why I built Me, Myself and the Machine, a prompt book for the self-worked out and therapist-wary. If you’ve been burned by therapy or need a place to start (or start again), this one’s for you.

Big love isn’t loud, it’s subtle, consistent, and often overlooked. It’s not the birthday posts or the crisis rescues that make us feel safe; it’s the way someone remembers how we take our coffee or texts us on a Tuesday just to check in. The little things may not scream love, but they live it. This is a rebellion against performative connection, a reminder that the real stuff is in the details.

Avoiding therapy and personal healing is like pretending the tough stuff doesn’t matter. We convince ourselves we’re in control by pushing down unresolved issues, but in reality, we’re just postponing the inevitable. The more we avoid the work, the bigger the crash when it finally hits, and it often shows up as emotional breakdowns, spiraling relationships, or moments where we can’t keep it together anymore. At the same time, avoiding healing allows negative beliefs to pile up, thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never be fixed.” These beliefs become like invisible weights, pulling us down and shaping how we show up in the world. The longer we avoid the work, the more ingrained these beliefs become, and the harder it is to move forward. The choice is clear: face the work now before the crash is too big, or continue avoiding it and let the emotional weight crush you when you least expect it.

I don’t hold grudges, I just remember. I remember the words people said that cut deep, the actions that spoke louder than their empty apologies, and the way they made me feel when they walked away. Remembering isn’t about clinging to anger or resentment; it’s about learning, growing, and setting boundaries that protect my peace. It’s not forgiveness that sets me free; it’s the clarity that comes from remembering, and from refusing to repeat the same mistakes.

Sometimes the life you chase with everything you have is the one that leaves you standing in the wreckage, wondering where it all went wrong. You sacrifice relationships, memories, and parts of yourself for a dream you thought would bring happiness, only to find it hollow. But here’s the truth: the real treasures are the friendships that remain, the people who show up even when you’ve lost your way. They’re the ones who remind you that success means nothing without connection. And when you start over, it’s their quiet, unwavering presence that helps you rebuild something real.

They told you that you were broken, as if your wholeness was never even an option. They sold you the lie of perfection, just to keep you running toward a finish line they’d keep moving. The truth is, you were born complete, and every piece of you, quirks, flaws, and scars included is already enough. Reclaiming that truth is an act of rebellion against a system that profits from your doubt. Once you see it, there’s no turning back.

You are the architect of your own existence. It’s time to stop letting fear, doubt, and past baggage control your life and start designing the life you truly want. Therapy isn’t just about fixing what’s broken, it’s a tool for empowerment, clarity, and resilience, helping you remove the walls that hold you back and build a solid foundation for your dreams. With the right mindset and support, you have the power to break free from the old patterns and create something real, something authentic, something truly yours.

Constructing the life you want is a journey, not a destination. It requires clarity, planning, action, trust, and a commitment to yourself that you won’t let go of. So, start this year different, no more waiting for “someday.” The life you want is waiting for you to build it, brick by brick. Make a plan. Take action. Stay true to yourself. And remember: you’ve got this.

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